Boys will be boys. Girls will be girls.
Have you ever had the experience where someone you're seeing/hooking up with just all of a sudden drops off the face of the earth? I have; and it's shit. For some godforsaken reason they think it's easier that way.
But, if you're anything like me, you require answers. Whether you like the person or not.
Honesty is the best policy. It may hurt now but in the long run, you'll be thankful for it!
Sometimes even a white lie is better than nothing at all.
The not knowing is the killer.
You check your phone every 5 minutes in the hope there's a message from them. Every time your phone goes off you're hoping its them & then when it's not you're almost pissed off at whoever has messaged you cause it's not who you want it to be. It's a vicious cycle.
I made a promise to myself a while ago that I would be up front when it came to guys. I've had a few guys message me & want to go out & honestly, they just weren't my type. So I did what any decent human being does, lets them down lightly. Yes I may have said the typical "I'm just not looking for anything or anyone right now", but hey, at least they know I'm not interested. Whereas some guys I know literally disappear. They think if I just don't reply, she'll get the point. But guess what guys, WE DON'T! We want you to man up, grow some balls & tell us that you just don't want to keep speaking to/seeing us. That way we can at least leave it with some dignity & respect for ourselves. Whereas your way, we turn into crazies. We message you repeatedly, call from private numbers to see if you'll answer, stalk your Facebook, ask friends if they've seen you & who you were with (ok, I'm sounding like a psycho. Haha. I can honestly say I haven't done any of these things for a very long time). But don't say you've never done it, cause I bet you've done it at least once or twice in your life.
Anyway, I'm learning that if a guy wants to see you or speak to you; he will. So now I try to not turn the crazy switch. Mind you, it's always there, lingering, trying to come out, waiting for me to weaken so it can pounce, but it's so much better if you just keep yourself busy. That way you're not thinking about it. And as they say, think like a man.
Men. Don't. Care. They don't think to message us & tell us everything they've eaten, seen or done in their day. It's just not in their nature. Whereas women are sharers. We like to talk & tell those we care about what we're up to. But seriously, do we even care?!! I know I'm certainly starting to careless. It makes it so much easier.
Ok, any men out there that read this, please take this on board & at least try to let the girls down nicely. Maybe that way you won't get a bad reputation for being the "player" we already know you are.
Remember girls, think like a man.
Taz x
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